Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are
- Downloads：3349
- Type：Epub+TxT+PDF+Mobi
- Create Date：2022-11-08 13:21:35
- Update Date：2025-09-07
- Status：finish
- Author：Lysa TerKeurst
- ISBN：B09X43TPY2
- Environment：PC/Android/iPhone/iPad/Kindle
Reviews
Brandy Thornton
，
This book was everything I didn't know I needed。 For years， I've dealt with emotional abuse and unhealthy toxic relationships with close family members， I've allowed friendships to become codependent， I've even failed to establish boundaries at work because of fear of being unlikely。This book felt as if Lysa was on the couch with me speaking directly to me with love and tenderness and guidance。 It was balm to my soul to read this book， to not feel alone， to know that boundaries help me stay 'me' This book was everything I didn't know I needed。 For years， I've dealt with emotional abuse and unhealthy toxic relationships with close family members， I've allowed friendships to become codependent， I've even failed to establish boundaries at work because of fear of being unlikely。This book felt as if Lysa was on the couch with me speaking directly to me with love and tenderness and guidance。 It was balm to my soul to read this book， to not feel alone， to know that boundaries help me stay 'me'。 。。。more
Marianna Holloman
，
Lysa TerKeurst has a beautiful way of communicating God’s Word and valuable information from her therapist and her life experiences in Good Boundaries and Goodbyes。 If you have ever felt selfish for setting boundaries or wondered how to handle a difficult relationship， this book will serve as a valuable resource for years to come。 My copy of the book is covered in my handwritten notes and is highlighted throughout because there is so much important information in Good Boundaries and Goodbyes。 Ly Lysa TerKeurst has a beautiful way of communicating God’s Word and valuable information from her therapist and her life experiences in Good Boundaries and Goodbyes。 If you have ever felt selfish for setting boundaries or wondered how to handle a difficult relationship， this book will serve as a valuable resource for years to come。 My copy of the book is covered in my handwritten notes and is highlighted throughout because there is so much important information in Good Boundaries and Goodbyes。 Lysa teaches that boundaries are a God thing， and we are not helping ourselves or other people by lacking boundaries。 Lysa isn’t simply saying that we should throw difficult relationships away， which you will see as you study this book。 Jesus has given Lysa so much wisdom and encouragement to share。 Do yourself a favor and order a copy！ 。。。more
Jennifer Longenecker
，
Lysa's book is the book I have needed my whole life。 I've struggled with setting boundaries without realizing it。 One of the goodbyes I've said in my life probably could have been prevented if I had the information in this book。 And when it came to relationships I have had to say Goodbye to， her book would have helped me walk through those goodbyes more appropriately。 I love that Lysa's counselor， Jim Cress， offers beneficial information at the end of each chapter。 The two combined make this boo Lysa's book is the book I have needed my whole life。 I've struggled with setting boundaries without realizing it。 One of the goodbyes I've said in my life probably could have been prevented if I had the information in this book。 And when it came to relationships I have had to say Goodbye to， her book would have helped me walk through those goodbyes more appropriately。 I love that Lysa's counselor， Jim Cress， offers beneficial information at the end of each chapter。 The two combined make this book a must-have go-to manual for all relationships。 。。。more
Dawnielle
，
I am blessed to be reading this as part of the launch team。 Wow， I'm almost done with Chap。 11 and it is such an amazing book。 So much practical experiences and examples of application， combined with theological application of scripture to the experiences， followed up with therapy and notes near the end of each chapter from Jim Cress a therapist on what was discussed in each chapter。 And a "Now Let's Live This。。。 section to warp up each chapter reviewing pints to remember from the chapter， point I am blessed to be reading this as part of the launch team。 Wow， I'm almost done with Chap。 11 and it is such an amazing book。 So much practical experiences and examples of application， combined with theological application of scripture to the experiences， followed up with therapy and notes near the end of each chapter from Jim Cress a therapist on what was discussed in each chapter。 And a "Now Let's Live This。。。 section to warp up each chapter reviewing pints to remember from the chapter， points to receive from the chapter， questions to reflect on from the chapter， and a prayer to close each chapter。 I plan to finish the book today， Nov。 7， 2022， but wanted to get this review posted so other can purchase this amazing book， which launches Nov。 8， 2022I highly recommend this book。 。。。more
Lisa Elliott
，
I knew I needed this book before I turned a single page; I'm so grateful for this treasure of practical， Biblical， life-changing wisdom to help guide the rest of my journey！ Before GB&GB， I barely understood our God-given need for boundaries let alone how to establish and enforce them in love。 I'd pour out all I had into people， hoping this time my offering would make both our lives better， instead of just making me bone-tired and bitter。 I thought it noble to sacrifice the best parts of myself I knew I needed this book before I turned a single page; I'm so grateful for this treasure of practical， Biblical， life-changing wisdom to help guide the rest of my journey！ Before GB&GB， I barely understood our God-given need for boundaries let alone how to establish and enforce them in love。 I'd pour out all I had into people， hoping this time my offering would make both our lives better， instead of just making me bone-tired and bitter。 I thought it noble to sacrifice the best parts of myself to help others manage their mess。 But I’m not God， and it's not honorable to let anyone think they can get from me what God alone can give; it's selfish and therefore sinful。 I don't know a soul who can't make their life better with help from this book; I’ll be giving out copies like candy this Christmas！ Five stars are not enough！ 。。。more
Vickie Bowen
，
We know that we people are not disposable， but it can be hard to know when to let some relationships go because they are more harmful than good。 Lysa's book is really insightful with a lot of practical information to help you on the journey of learning about appropriate boundaries， how to establish boundaries and when relationships have reached a toxic state and need to be addressed。 Lysa's book is a great tool to help you not lose yourself in people pleasing。 Highly recommend。 We know that we people are not disposable， but it can be hard to know when to let some relationships go because they are more harmful than good。 Lysa's book is really insightful with a lot of practical information to help you on the journey of learning about appropriate boundaries， how to establish boundaries and when relationships have reached a toxic state and need to be addressed。 Lysa's book is a great tool to help you not lose yourself in people pleasing。 Highly recommend。 。。。more
Maria Legra
，
Lysa is an exceptional communicator。 Each one of her books has tremendous insight， backed with scripture。 In this book Lysa has the ability to clarify， in a very relatable way， what boundaries are meant for and why they are so important。 You will enjoy this book tremendously but you may also cry a little。 Through the lense of faith， Lysa writes an exceptional "relationship" book。 I'm sure I will refer to it many times while navigating my own relationships。 Lysa is an exceptional communicator。 Each one of her books has tremendous insight， backed with scripture。 In this book Lysa has the ability to clarify， in a very relatable way， what boundaries are meant for and why they are so important。 You will enjoy this book tremendously but you may also cry a little。 Through the lense of faith， Lysa writes an exceptional "relationship" book。 I'm sure I will refer to it many times while navigating my own relationships。 。。。more
Melissa Stuber
，
Fantastic book to help us take a step back from the emotions of relationships to see where we need better boundaries to love people well。 Her simple explanations help us wrap our heads around why boundaries are not only helpful but necessary and when a goodbye is needed， it can be done in a loving and godly way。 Highly recommend this book！！
Heather Huggins
，
I love Lysa's writing style and also love that she takes even her deepest hurts - where the enemy meant harm - and turns it to good by helping others navigate through similar hurts。 This book is so full of Godly wisdom on the topic of boundaries。 If you struggle in this area of setting healthy boundaries in your life - I HIGHLY recommend digging in to this book！ It's life changing！ I love Lysa's writing style and also love that she takes even her deepest hurts - where the enemy meant harm - and turns it to good by helping others navigate through similar hurts。 This book is so full of Godly wisdom on the topic of boundaries。 If you struggle in this area of setting healthy boundaries in your life - I HIGHLY recommend digging in to this book！ It's life changing！ 。。。more
Jennifer Nelson
，
Have been blown away by the wisdom and new terminology to use when explaining what my heart has been wrestling with。 Highly recommend！！！
Erin Sampson
，
Lysa does it again！ This book is so eye opening and clearly shows step-by-step how to effectively use good boundaries in your own life。 Being submissive and kind shouldn’t enable others’ bad behavior。 Lysa shares her story along with notes from her trusted therapist Jim。 Together， they will take you on a self discovery journey to be the best version of yourself and give you the confidence to live an authentic life。 If you haven’t read Lysa’s Forgiving What You Can’t Forget， I highly recommend it Lysa does it again！ This book is so eye opening and clearly shows step-by-step how to effectively use good boundaries in your own life。 Being submissive and kind shouldn’t enable others’ bad behavior。 Lysa shares her story along with notes from her trusted therapist Jim。 Together， they will take you on a self discovery journey to be the best version of yourself and give you the confidence to live an authentic life。 If you haven’t read Lysa’s Forgiving What You Can’t Forget， I highly recommend it， as it pairs perfectly with Good Boundaries and Goodbyes。 。。。more
Adinda
，
I think the quote by Helen Exley "Books can be dangerous。 The best ones should be labeled 'This could change your life，” absolutely can be said about this book about boundaries。 Lysa Terkeurst has hit it out of the park again with this book。 I was hooked from the first chapter on！ I love how she breaks down why boundaries aren’t just a good idea， they are a God idea and how we can set those in every relationship we come across。 Don’t just walk， RUN to get a copy of it as soon as you can。 It very I think the quote by Helen Exley "Books can be dangerous。 The best ones should be labeled 'This could change your life，” absolutely can be said about this book about boundaries。 Lysa Terkeurst has hit it out of the park again with this book。 I was hooked from the first chapter on！ I love how she breaks down why boundaries aren’t just a good idea， they are a God idea and how we can set those in every relationship we come across。 Don’t just walk， RUN to get a copy of it as soon as you can。 It very well could change your life！ 。。。more
Kimberly
，
I can’t say enough about the new book by Lysa TerKeurst。 This is her best book yet！ It’s such a privilege and blessing to be a part of this book launch。 So far it’s a consistent WOW！ Being in the relationships I’ve been my whole life I have lacked boundaries and self worth which only made the relationships worse。 She has given us the perfect manner in which to make good boundaries standing on Godly principles in her newest release， Good Boundaries and Goodbyes。
Kim Lastrina
，
I am really enjoying this book。 I think it’s packed full of tangible information for me to process。 I love the examples that Lysa gives and the stories of her personal journey。 Some of this information I have learned through my life and it was a good refresher and a good reminder。 Other things were aha moments and new。 I loved the additional information from Jim， her counselor that really got me thinking。 I truly believe every person should read this book to learn and grow in life and with God。 I am really enjoying this book。 I think it’s packed full of tangible information for me to process。 I love the examples that Lysa gives and the stories of her personal journey。 Some of this information I have learned through my life and it was a good refresher and a good reminder。 Other things were aha moments and new。 I loved the additional information from Jim， her counselor that really got me thinking。 I truly believe every person should read this book to learn and grow in life and with God。 Thank you Lysa for turning a personal crisis into something so beautiful to help others。 You are a kindred spirit。 。。。more
Sabrina Morales
，
This is a powerful book。 It goes straight to the heart of issues some of us are facing。 It gives words to what we struggle to speak and Biblical perspectives and how to handle the issues。 Also， Lysa gives such a feeling of closeness being honest in her own thoughts and struggles。
Kelly Schaeffer
，
This book has been the whipped cream on top of my healing process。 I’m so grateful for Lysa’s vulnerability and honesty in sharing what walking through and healing from unfaithfulness and addictions in a marriage looks like when it’s done God’s way。 I love the way she lays out the boundaries that the Lord has set for us as well as the helpful tips from her counselor on how to set boundaries the right way。 Looking forward to reading and rereading this again as I continue to love people the way Je This book has been the whipped cream on top of my healing process。 I’m so grateful for Lysa’s vulnerability and honesty in sharing what walking through and healing from unfaithfulness and addictions in a marriage looks like when it’s done God’s way。 I love the way she lays out the boundaries that the Lord has set for us as well as the helpful tips from her counselor on how to set boundaries the right way。 Looking forward to reading and rereading this again as I continue to love people the way Jesus did with the right boundaries and with no fear of saying goodbye when a relationship isn’t healthy anymore。 。。。more
Jenifer
，
MUST read！ Lysa’s book， Good Boundaries and Goodbyes， came to me at just the right time in my life。 Learning boundaries are healthy for both parties involved was eye opening。 Thank you！
Jasmine
，
This book has been so impactful and mind blowing in the best ways。 I never imagined that setting or having boundaries was a God thing。 I would definitely recommend this book to everyone。 A must read。
Jennifer Murtola
，
Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is an incredibly insightful and impactful book about how to navigate setting and maintaining boundaries in the various relationships in your life。 Lysa TerKeurst eloquently takes her personal experiences and God's word straight from the Bible to help the reader explore the importance of healthy boundaries， how to respond when boundaries are not respected， how to ensure one is able to obtain health， security and safety in their relationships， and how to navigate neces Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is an incredibly insightful and impactful book about how to navigate setting and maintaining boundaries in the various relationships in your life。 Lysa TerKeurst eloquently takes her personal experiences and God's word straight from the Bible to help the reader explore the importance of healthy boundaries， how to respond when boundaries are not respected， how to ensure one is able to obtain health， security and safety in their relationships， and how to navigate necessary goodbyes。 There are practical and meaningful suggestions on how to accomplish certain things and examples of what to do in different circumstances， and her Christian counselor， Jim Cress， also provides input as well。 This book came to me at such an important time in my life and Lysa's wisdom， vulnerability， empathy， and ability to articulate such essential lessons and relate to the reader create such a moving book。 I have gained insight into myself and various situations which have allowed me to process through things in ways that I hadn't before。 For anyone who is currently （or has ever） struggling through a challenging relationship and isn't sure what to do or how to make it better， for anyone who knows that something needs to change but doesn't know what or how to make the change， for anyone who has been hurt or is grieving for various different reasons and wants to learn how to set boundaries in current or future relationships。。。this is for you。 For anyone who knows someone who may be struggling with any of these things， or for anyone who works in the mental health field and wants a resource that is Biblical， relatable， insightful， and inspiring。。。this is for you。 Although I wish Lysa never had to experience the grief and agony she has in her life， I am thankful she has chosen to share her experiences and wisdom with the world。 She is helping more people than she will ever know。 I am already planning to lead a Bible study with some friends with this book， and I am really looking forward to diving into it again and discussing it with them。 。。。more
Kim
，
Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is an exceptionally encouraging book for all readers。 Whether you are navigating a difficult relationship with a family member， spouse， friend， or colleague， this book will give you tangible tools on how to best develop healthy and relational boundaries。 Integrating scripture within this book， as well as counsel from Lysa's own counselor， Jim Cress， the book teaches the reader biblically how God designed healthy boundaries and the book uses many biblical examples， as Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is an exceptionally encouraging book for all readers。 Whether you are navigating a difficult relationship with a family member， spouse， friend， or colleague， this book will give you tangible tools on how to best develop healthy and relational boundaries。 Integrating scripture within this book， as well as counsel from Lysa's own counselor， Jim Cress， the book teaches the reader biblically how God designed healthy boundaries and the book uses many biblical examples， as well as current present-day examples from personal experiences。 I personally have gained much insight into the perspective of God's design in relationships and glorifying Him in the process of these relationships。 I highly recommend this book to readers of all adult ages， as one can always learn better what God's word states on His great plans for us to prosper and give us hope in our futures。 He wants what is best for us。 So let's take a deep dive into what He so clearly teaches us and become healthy and whole in the process！ 。。。more
Camille Wade
，
I highly recommend this book to anyone （women， me， even teens） seeking healthy relationships。 There is no easy answer， but this book does a really nice job of walking you through the difficult （but oh so worth it） process of boundary setting。 With gems such as， "health cannot bond with unhealth"， and "Where there is an abundance of chaos， there is usually a lack of good boundaries" this book has the potential to be life changing。 This book is the perfect intersection of mental health and theolog I highly recommend this book to anyone （women， me， even teens） seeking healthy relationships。 There is no easy answer， but this book does a really nice job of walking you through the difficult （but oh so worth it） process of boundary setting。 With gems such as， "health cannot bond with unhealth"， and "Where there is an abundance of chaos， there is usually a lack of good boundaries" this book has the potential to be life changing。 This book is the perfect intersection of mental health and theology for those looking to live healthy with the Bible as their plumb line。 。。。more
Ronda
，
There is encouragement to be found within the pages of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes。 Lysa's words resonate with me and reminds me that there is a way， with God's help， to set boundaries without losing myself and the ability to believe in healthy， loving relationships。 There is encouragement to be found within the pages of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes。 Lysa's words resonate with me and reminds me that there is a way， with God's help， to set boundaries without losing myself and the ability to believe in healthy， loving relationships。 。。。more
Lorrie Me
，
This book is an excellent resource for learning how to set healthy boundaries in order to protect yourself from difficult or offensive people。 It clearly defines the difference between setting healthy boundaries or building unhealthy walls。 Lysa does a great job of coordinating the Word with each principle。 She even includes a chapter on verses that are used out of context against us。 She also gives examples of how to address those verses within boundaries。 The chapter on goodbyes was a confirma This book is an excellent resource for learning how to set healthy boundaries in order to protect yourself from difficult or offensive people。 It clearly defines the difference between setting healthy boundaries or building unhealthy walls。 Lysa does a great job of coordinating the Word with each principle。 She even includes a chapter on verses that are used out of context against us。 She also gives examples of how to address those verses within boundaries。 The chapter on goodbyes was a confirmation to me that sometimes it’s necessary to say goodbye to the person and it’s ok to still be able to remember the good times that were shared between us， too。 I wish this book had been written 30 years ago when I was struggling through a divorce， but I’m thankful to have read it for present and future relationships。 I think this book is a MUST READ for everyone！ We all have a difficult person in our lives and need to know how to set and keep healthy boundaries。 。。。more
Amber Thornton
，
The wealth of information in this book has helped me navigate one of the deepest valleys I have ever walked through while keeping my focus on God， Boundaries are Biblical and are necessary for healthy relationships。
Amanda Bowen
，
Lysa does such a great job of navigating a topic that very few have addressed。 She shows vulnerability and gives such practical advice。 Anything she suggests trying， she has tried herself。 This is a wonderful book for anyone， because we all have at least one difficult relationship in our life。
Sarah Mahieu
，
Each and every chapter of this book is chock full of wisdom that is helping me to have a much greater understanding of why putting healthy boundaries into place in my life is so necessary。 It also guides me through how I can put these boundaries into place in the many different relationships in my life。 With each new chapter I read， I think that there cannot possibly be more wisdom I can glean， only to discover more and more！ I also appreciate the notes from Lysa's therapist at the end of every Each and every chapter of this book is chock full of wisdom that is helping me to have a much greater understanding of why putting healthy boundaries into place in my life is so necessary。 It also guides me through how I can put these boundaries into place in the many different relationships in my life。 With each new chapter I read， I think that there cannot possibly be more wisdom I can glean， only to discover more and more！ I also appreciate the notes from Lysa's therapist at the end of every chapter。 I relate quite a bit to Lysa's own personal story， and I feel like I am learning so much about myself as I read through this book。 It is helping me grow emotionally for sure。 She gives real examples of many different relationship situations， so even if you do not relate to her personal story in the same way， absolutely anyone who has relationships with other humans would benefit greatly from reading Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are。 。。。more
Jordan Taylor
，
Wow。 Easily one of the best Christian books I’ve ever read。 Lysa Terkeurst continues to stun me with her theological insight and unpacking of often quoted （and misinterpreted） verses in Scripture。 Good Boundaries and Goodbyes walks readers through navigating difficult questions like， How do you establish boundaries in relationships？ Are boundaries biblical？ （Spoiler alert: They are！） How do you know when it’s a difficult relationship vs。 a habitually destructive one？ When is it appropriate to sa Wow。 Easily one of the best Christian books I’ve ever read。 Lysa Terkeurst continues to stun me with her theological insight and unpacking of often quoted （and misinterpreted） verses in Scripture。 Good Boundaries and Goodbyes walks readers through navigating difficult questions like， How do you establish boundaries in relationships？ Are boundaries biblical？ （Spoiler alert: They are！） How do you know when it’s a difficult relationship vs。 a habitually destructive one？ When is it appropriate to say goodbye？ Is it biblical to say goodbye？ （Again， spoiler alert: Yes！） “Boundaries” seems to be a hot button issue lately in modern psychology， so I was delighted to see Lysa appropriately tackle this through the lens of Scripture。 I was moved to tears many times。 I can’t recommend this book highly enough for those who need help navigating difficult relationships and overcoming people pleasing。 。。。more
Jessi Veras
，
Again， an incredible guide that provides practical application while pointing us to Jesus。 Lysa never fails to get straight to the heart and not only provide experiential advice， but Biblical guidance to walk though some of the hardest situations。 Must read！
Renee Winters
，
So much to sit with in this book， and I'm only half way through。 This is a book that I know I am going to need to re-read， circle， underline and pick up the things that I know I have missed。 There is just so much helpful information on boundaries， how to set them and why we need them， within these pages。 Lysa TerKeurst with has once again penned the words that I cannot seem to find how to voice myself。 So much to sit with in this book， and I'm only half way through。 This is a book that I know I am going to need to re-read， circle， underline and pick up the things that I know I have missed。 There is just so much helpful information on boundaries， how to set them and why we need them， within these pages。 Lysa TerKeurst with has once again penned the words that I cannot seem to find how to voice myself。 。。。more
Kelly Edwards
，